Sunday, June 8, 2014

adolescents with issues of gender and sexual disorientation disorientation

One of the cases that we handle a lot of the last ten years is a teenager with issues of gender and sexual disorientation disorientation. This time let me share about some cases of sexual disorientation in adolescents.

Case 1

Verra (pseudonym) a level 2 student, a sweet-looking, consultation turmoil about his relationship with Rinny. Both Indonesian students who study in America. Initially just a good friendship, because Rinny very warm and friendly.

Originally Verra feel lonely when newly arrived in America. Verra had locked himself in his apartment, in addition to lectures. He keeps the bitterness in his father forced him to break up with a guy who he loved so much. In the middle of that situation won her Rinny. Attention, sacrifice, willingness Rinny be a place to vent, very touching Verra.

Originally Verra not know that Rinny lesbian. But when Rinny start making out invites, Verra could not resist, even though his heart felt something odd. Eventually, Verra enjoy it.

Case 2

Samson 20 years (pseudonym). One of his brothers were sent to counseling because he did similar relationship with Allex (22 yrs). Samson, came from a relatively harmonious. Samson is very loved papa, mama and her two sisters. He was the youngest and the only boy.

According to Samson, there is no intention of doing similar relationship with Allex. Only he was taken aback when he first migrated. She felt very lonely. Usually he is familiar joking with his brother, still dikeloni Mama before bedtime, dimanjain daddy as the only son. Suddenly all was lost. Hospital, said Samson. I really miss the touch and attention.

Until one day Allex, sister and friend level boarding house, likes to invite him to chat while lying diranjangnya. At first just a chat. Eventually Allex began groping her private parts. Samson was strange, but he refused bad, because during this Allex who understand their needs. Samson also thought, yet there is no danger. Over time, he enjoyed until that relationship even further.

Case 3

Tonny 16 years (pseudonym), a class of high school students. He grew up in a broken-home. His father likes to hit hard and Tonny. His own mother ignored because it is so busy with the business. Relatively rare Tonny papa mama at home. Not to mention his parents quarreling fiercely in front of Tony.

The friends of Tony likes to play house. Incidentally Tonny big house, and he lived in a separate part of the house from her parents. Tony and his so free to do anything. It's been 3 years, since I was a junior Tony frequent masturbation.

One day his friend offered to help Tony to masturbate. The initial goal was just playing around. But Tony finally enjoy the game, and without realizing it is too far in similar relationships.

Similar reasons Teens Trying Relations

Of the three cases above, there are some reasons teens fall in similar relationships

First, hidden anger to hatred to the father who does not teselesaikan. That Being doors Verra withdrawn. Until one day there was a college friend, both from Indonesia, attention and genuine love. According to Verra, under his conscious he was familiar with his female friend to avenge the hurt on his father. Because his father had forced him to break with the guy hero. Verra and Rinny relationship stronger both physically and emotionally. They are already planning a same-sex marriage over the objections of their parents. But it seems the road is still dark.

Second, the case of Samson. Excessive emotional attachment relationships with parents and her brother Samson Makes less skilled tend to get along. Comfort zone at home, making samson awkward at school and on campus. He was a friend in college hostile, often taunting him as a child mommy. Less slang, etc. weird. Samson is not ready to split up and wander. As a result, when the friend kostnya attention, for he was very unusual. It Creates a sense of obligation. Samson finally could not resist when his best friend who is a Gay Allex sex invite.

Third, Tonny case. Abusive father indifferent mother make poor Tonny emotionally. Tonny escape from discomfort to parents by way of enclosed rooms. Since he knew pornography, he increasingly unable to contain his desire always masturbation. Jock friends are also the same. Bad company, has brought Tony into the kind of relationship.

Most of them have the tendency early on, like the same sex. Like the case of some clients that camp since 3 SD had a tendency to feel it. There is a regard (sure) is genetic and difficult to change. For groups who think so, are usually more difficult to help.

Others, however, there are similar relations for trapped situation and friendship is wrong. For this group as Verra, Samson and Tony, actually there is a way in to change. This can be done with family counseling approach. Recovery of a sick family system to personal rapprochement parents and children. But it is difficult to change is the parents. But once again this is not an easy process, there is a long hallway that must be followed

Others there were only orientation course but did not actively. Commonly called a passive homosexual (latent). Fantasy sex with the opposite sex they are not, but are interested in similar.

Some obstacles

1. Clients do not want to open on her parents. Feeling scared etc..

2. Parents do not want to open for consultation, because they feel embarrassed and considers it a disgrace the family.

3. Low public acceptance of those who have similar sexual orientation. This makes them feel comfortable only if it is in their own communities.

4. Attitude clergy and dogma or doctrine that tends not to judge, but it does not provide any solution to their problems. Thus making them good teachings was no power to change them.

Indeed, many more cases around us. Acceptance of gays and lesbians also had reached the world level, the United Nations. In some European countries and the USA also legalized. It is not yet accepted in our country.

I myself can understand and accept, and hang out with some of my friends who have same-sex orientation. Some of them are even friends are warm, friendly, kind, and succeed in their careers. There are even active help our seminars, while assisting those who want to change.


Our clients generally come to counseling feeling guilty. Longs helped to get out of that situation. It's just not a simple process to recovery. Therefore the best solution is: I ask, prevention is better than cure.

In the experience as a therapist, helped some of our clients because of the acceptance of family, community support and therapy (counseling) intensive. Although sexual orientation is no "rest" for life, but their behavior changed. They won.

Sunday, May 25, 2014

The Future Of Adult Dating Personals

Adult dating personals have definitely become a force to reckon with, with the number one site in this market recently becoming the eighth biggest site on the internet! But why has it become so popular as of late and what's involved when it comes to setting up your own adult dating personals? A Safe Place Turn The number one reason why adult friend finder sites have become so incredibly popular in recent history is because of the ability of the internet to allow people to chat anonymously about the subject of sex. 

In the outside world if this occurred, people would almost certainly find out, which would be an embarrassing thing to have to put up with! Adult dating personals allow people to post things about themselves, usually personal things and remain anonymous. Screen names are used as a pseudonym, which means complete anonymity. This inevitably allows you to be a completely different person, the person you have always dreamed of being and it is this one point alone that has enticed so many people into using such adult dating services. 

So What's Involved? If you are planning on joining one of these services, you can get involved easily and usually for free. Once you have a membership, the next step is to set up your profile of which will be seen by potentially millions of people from all around the world. The one thing that is not mandatory is your personal contact details. That means you don't have to put down your real name if you don't want too. In your membership you will also be able to search for and converse with other members from over the world. 

You can also edit your profile as well as some other cool search functions such as finding people in your local area, which is good if you plan on meeting some of the other members in person. There is one thing that people are mistaken by when it comes to these particular sites and it's this. The majority of people that use adult friend finding services are people like you and me and not crazy sex addicts. Actually if you are a crazy sex addict, it's likely that you'll be kicked out faster than you can say "I want some!" Most services keep pretty close eyes on their members to make sure there are no people in there for the wrong reason. Unfortunately the internet as well as creating a lot of good things has also bred a small group of people that have malicious ideas. Just make sure you really get to know the people in their before you decide to arrange a meeting, chances are things will be OK but you can never be certain enough.

Sunday, May 18, 2014

The 4 Steps of Personal Change For Adults With ADHD

Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (AD/HD) offers many gifts. I've never met an adult with AD/HD who wasn't creative, compassionate, and driven, in one form or another. We hold in abundance many qualities that the rest of world sometimes seems to lack. But while AD/HD has its upside, there is no denying that many of us often find ourselves out of sync with the rest of the world. Our time management skills are usually poor. Our abilities to prioritize and organize often need work. And a host of other challenges present themselves when an adult with AD/HD tries to thrive in a world full of non-AD/HDers. 

 Like everyone else, there are things about ourselves that we find we need to change. If it were easy to change old habits and thought patterns, there would be no need for therapists, coaches, or self-help books. Life would be simple. And it would be boring. When positive, personal changes are adapted, like sharpening time management skills or adapting techniques for better focus, the result is a renewed sense of confidence and an increase in the options that are available to us. I've always thought of change as a 4-part process: 

1.Education It's information that inspires change. Becoming educated about AD/HD and the way it can affect adults is the first step to identifying changes that need to be made. This stage can last quite a long time before the next step is undertaken. Knowledge is like a seed and the mind, all by itself, is a fertile garden. 

2. Awareness Self-awareness is key when making personal change. It's impossible to change that which we are not aware of. An adult with AD/HD must practice self awareness in all areas of life to determine what's working, and what isn't. This is a time when one begins to realize that certain behaviors and actions have propelled you forward, and others have held you back. 

3. Reframing It's important to realize that every person always does the best they can. No one purposefully under-performs, under-achieves, or disappoints. When you give yourself enough credit to explore why you might do certain things the way you do, you can reframe your behaviors and actions with the understanding that they are there for a reason, and not because you are inadequate. 

4. Action The action step often happens on its own. When an adult with AD/HD gains knowledge, practices awareness, and realizes the positive reasons that change needs to take place, action will unconsciously follow.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Adult Web Hosting

Of all websites on the internet, there are just a few that require a level of hosting service that demands more than most websites. One of them is adult websites. There is no argument that adult sites have the most number of visits among web surfers. And a well-promoted adult site can easily attract millions of web surfers to tax even the most bandwidth generous web hosting bureau. 

Web hosting has become a lucrative online business catering from small personal websites and blogs up to commercial merchant portals processing thousands of online transactions per day. For most of these, shared web hosting services can suffice. But when the site reaches critical levels of visitor traffic where bandwidth, uptime availability becomes crucial to the business generated on the web, you are looking beyond ordinary web hosting. 

Dedicated web hosting service becomes a must. Commercial adult websites are one special type that can be extremely demanding of its web host. Apart from looking at the uptime, bandwidth and storage space dimensions of hosting an adult website, the web hosting bureau also needs to check the legal implications as well. 

Does the country where the server resides allow adult sites to be hosted? Once the legal hurdles are covered, then the technical aspects can now be handled. Here are some of the things to consider when hosting an adult website: Check that the hosting site supports adult sites. Even in a country where adult sites are regulated by local or federal laws, there are web host bureaus that prefer not to host adult sites. 

Check out their terms and conditions page and it should indicate if they allow adult content to be hosted. If you do a Google search on the term "adult web hosting," you get about 2.1 million search returns. These are hosting sites or reference sites to other hosting companies scattered around the world that can provide hosting services for adult webpages. Most of these sites specialize in adult content and it is often quite easy to spot one right away. 

Bandwidth, Storage Space and Uptimes Once you've limited your choices to the sites that host adult material, the next criteria to check are the host's bandwidth, storage space and guaranteed uptimes. They will come at a premium. Almost all hosting sites offer about $5 basic monthly hosting charge, but they cover just the basic. 

Don't get impressed with the site's ads claiming gigabyte bandwidths and storage spaces as many sites practice overselling them in the hope that those bandwidth and storage spaces will hardly be used. But when you are planning for an adult website, this won't work. You will need a dedicated web host with sufficient storage for all your adult content and the bandwidth to support its download for thousands of web surfers at any given time. 

And factor in video streaming and you will need all the bandwidth you can get in order not to turn off your visitors or members. Peak times and lean times may not really apply because your audience is the entire world. Support for the most common image and video file types as well as their sizes is a must. Adult sites are known for providing large high resolution images its members can download. 

These files in the JPG formats do eat gigabytes of storage space especially when you have an archive section. More so with video files with the more common avi, and mpeg4 formats. Video files eat huge bandwidths. Be especially wary of web hosts that advertise terabytes of data speeds for a few dollars a month. 

They are of the low quality high latency bandwidth. While this may be fine for most websites, your streaming video will just stutter and alienate your visitors and members. In short, adult web sites need a dedicated web hosting service bureau that can support the most common multimedia file types and provide the storage space and bandwidth to make your clients surfing in high traffic volume happy. Lastly, check to see if they live up to their uptime claims. 

Many reputable adult sites do maintain server and network redundancies that enable them to back their 99% or more availability claims. Web host reputation can help you make your choice. They may be expensive than most other web host bureaus, but as in anything else, you get what you pay for.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Using Adult Toys to Enhance Relationships

Adult Toys are a great way to experience new things in the bedroom. Most adult Novelties can provide direct stimulation and arousal, and many couples are turning to adult toys to help spice things up. Although some couples may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable using adult toys to help stimulate their love life, in reality experimenting with sex toys can actually create can openness between you and your partner. Using adult toys can help you experience new areas of arousal and pleasure together, and help you better understand how to please your partner. 

The main reason couples feel uncomfortable using sex toys together is because they have never used them before, its something unfamiliar. If you and your partner are ready to embark on a new, romantic, passionate adventure together these toys may be just what you need to get started. Not only can these toys help couples become more open sexually with one another, sex toys are appealing because they are relatively inexpensive. Buying a toy is a one time purchase that can provide multiple opportunities of passion for you and your partner in the bedroom. Adult toys also come in a variety of sizes and models and can be used by the inexperienced and experienced alike. If you are new to the world of adult toys, do your research on the differences between products. 

You may chose to include your partner as you shop around for just the right adult toy, or you may chose to surprise him/her with your purchase. If you and your partner are new to the world of adult toys, adult games, or enhancers, then start off slow. Make sure that whatever you try is something that you both feel comfortable trying. If one partner feels awkward or uncomfortable it will impact the overall experience of both people. Recognize that sex, like other qualities of your relationship, requires time and effort to keep things alive and going strong. Just as individuals change throughout time, you also have to adapt your sexuality and sensuality with the relationship. 

Being open to trying new things in the bedroom and being adaptable to change is just one way that your love life can grow and flourish. Adult novelties are just one way that couples can enhance their relationship, other options include lubes, adult games, lingerie, and adult videos. A common misconception is that these enhancers are used to replace having a partner. And, while that may be true in some circumstances, it is certainly not always so. 

Remember that in order for a couple to grow their sexual relationship they must be open with each other, and be willing to understand what pleases their partner. Enhancers may simply be a way to help you and your partner get your sexual adventure started. If you have some experience using adult Novelties then you already know the benefits that come from using them. If you are new to the world of adult toys then the adventure is ahead of you!

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Virtual Worlds to Bloom by 55% in Five Years

The commercial and free virtual world research firm eMarketer have made a bold prediction that within five years, virtual worlds may see an exponential growth of up to 55%. That's an encouraging sign for VWs in general because they are slowly gaining the acceptance of even adults nowadays. Because of its online nature, there has always been a running assumption that VWs are only for children and young adults. But VWs have proven to be a bustling community with its own economy, sensibilities and even culture. 

This parallelism with real life has given it a new buzz among adults, sensible moms and the baby boomer generation. The projections of eMarketer detail the consumption of virtual world consumption by young children to rise from eight million to fifteen million users. An estimated 54% of these young children will range from the ages of 3 to 11. The percentile for teens as of the year 2013 would be at 25%. Although virtual world marketers are gearing to include the demographic of the young urban professionals, family-oriented adults and stay-at-home moms, the majority of the buzz surrounding VWs still remains in the domain of the young children. As of today, there are about 150 commercial and free virtual worlds for kids. 

This trend will only continue five years from now. eMarketer points out that a good reason why VWs are a hit among children is its integration of the perks of video games and social marketing. After all, if children can get their fix on these two highlights of the Web 2.0 phenomenon in one place, they will definitely keep coming back. Moreover, children have a strong affinity for camaraderie in the online setting. Concerns about child safety are common with parents regarding the use of their children of these VWs. Exploitations and harassments do happen in these virtual world communities. But with the awareness brought by media literacy and previous reports of abuse, administrators of VWs are keen to maintain high standards of child protection in these online communities. 

With the multitude of commercial and free virtual worlds in the World Wide Web, having a strong sense of protection for users is good for brand identification. This is why virtual worlds are hard at work to maintain a good reputation for child safety. For VWs catering to the adult demographic, such safety concerns are not that important. 

The premium is for the user experience inside these online communities. There are two kinds of VWs and their focuses are clearly delineated: the massively multiplayer online role playing games (MMORPGs) and the social networking virtual worlds. As one can observe, adults are looking for an optimized experience in these virtual worlds - unlike virtual worlds for kids which try to give everything for children. However, advertising in VWs as of late has still not turned into a full-fledged industry because marketers are still feeling out these virtual worlds. According to Debra Aho Williamson, eMarketer senior analyst and author of the new report, Kids and Teens: Growing Up Virtual: "Unfortunately, as with social networks, advertising has not kept pace with usage. Not surprisingly, the hype and fizzling out of Second Life, combined with the tough economy, have made some marketers skittish for virtual worlds in general." With the strong market competition, it can be forecasted that VWs will keep on improving their services - whether for children or for adults. And with this competition in mind, the forecasted 55% increase of virtual world usage by the research firm eMarketer seems to be reasonable and following its timetable.

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Succeeding in Adult Online Dating

There is a wide-open world for people with low self-esteem or are too shy to get out and meet people. This new world is adult dating personals sites. These sites may not be as romantic as your favorite love story. But they are a viable alternative for the shy people to meet and possibly fall in love. With so many adult dating personals sites available today how do you pick which one is right for you? Take each site one by one and read their descriptions and requirements. 

This will tell you whether you want to join that adult dating personals site or not. Most online adult dating personals sites will cater to a specific group of people. Some sites cater to sports enthusiasts only, while others cater to Christians only. Some will allow adult content while other sites are more family oriented. Finding the online adult dating personals site that fits your style and beliefs will take time and a little effort. We live in a fast paced era where every minute counts. 

We don't want to waste time on dating people that might not work out. This is where online adult personals sites come into play. These sites allow you to know instantly whether their members have the same beliefs and interests as you do. You should follow standard safety measures when you join an online adult personals site. These include the most basic safety measures of not giving out your personal details for the whole world to see. Do not give out your real name or your home and office phone numbers or addresses. 

Once you have talked with someone for a while and believe they are trustworthy, then and only then you can give them a little more personal information. When you sign up with an online adult dating personals site you can give a photo and a description of yourself. Make sure you keep your real name private and use an alias in the forums. You have found that someone special on the adult dating personals site and you decide to meet. There are several safety measures you can follow to make sure your date goes as you plan. 

The first time you meet someone from the adult dating personals site should be in a public place. The more people around you the better. You don't want to be totally alone with them to start with. Never meet at your home. If possible make your date a double date with friends or make it a group date with several friends both yours and theirs. Take your own car or a cab to the date never let them drive you. Do not drink too much alcohol, you need to be in control of your senses at all times. Be sure to let a friend know where you are going and whom you are meeting. Let a friend know all you can about the person you are dating. Online adult dating personals sites are a great place to meet people. Following the advice in this article can keep you safe and help you find the love of your life.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Adult Acne: Can It Still be Cured?

The tales of adult acne has ever been a silent one, only told as whispers and an unfortunate few suffered from it, some may even refuse to show themselves to the world. The manifestation of adult acne has been recognized during the Eighties, when the yuppie generation has standardized of what is to become the hip urban lifestyle free of adult acne and any other lesions. 

Though adult acne is one aesthetic issue that is quite prevalent in the real world, nearly 25 percent of men, and about 50 percent of women from their twenties and even in their fifties may still experience having adult acne. The face is usually the first place for adult acne to appear, and may also form in parts of the body only their significant other knows where. 

So much like the majority of teenagers with their growing pains, what sort of twisted fate that could make adults tremble with fear due to adult acne? Have they suffered enough when they were younger and forced to douse themselves with every medicated formula there is to cure adult acne? As much as today's medical breakthroughs can offer in the 21st century, adult acne, so much like teenage acne, still has no cure though doctors and dermatologists believe its roots may be traced to hormonal imbalance. 

Another addition to the cause of adult acne can be found on how we actually live, mostly on diet, stress, vitamin deficiency, and evolutionary biology. No, we are not turning into monsters. All they can prescribe is that products on acne marketed for teens may also be used by adults. Social issues fall victim to adult acne, causing anxiety and depression among friends and family alike. 

Who could just walk into an after-hours club when his or her face is covered in adult acne? It may be a vanity thing for those who would want to stand out to be noticed, but adult acne is one type of concern that will definitely make you stand out like a weed. Skin clinics rejoice that they make thousands of (pesos) from people to help them get rid of their adult acne. 

Cosmetic products like foundations, blushes and such kept flying off the shelves as women find ways to hide the scars caused by adult acne. They would say that 'judge not a book by its cover', but it would only mean that only the fortunate ones have not suffered adult acne. As we live in a generation where superficiality can be just about anything, adult acne has become a hindrance of a majority of adults who wish to look presentable.

Sunday, April 6, 2014

Natural Treatment for Adult Acne

For most adults the skin on their face is entirely normal. For those who suffer adult acne the value placed on clear blemish free skin can be high. The face is the first thing others notice when they first see or meet you. The better our appearance the greater our confidence not only in ourselves but also in how the outside world sees us. Finding a natural treatment can become a top priority if you suffer from adult acne. Many of us outgrew the acne that plagued us as teenagers. 

It was a major problem back then but as we aged it went away. But for many people the acne never went away and while not life threatening adult acne can create self image problems that most adults don't want to deal with. If you are looking for a natural treatment for adult acne there is light at the end of the tunnel. If adult acne is your curse and you are tired of wasting money on the latest cream or pill then maybe a more natural treatment is the answer. 

You need a remedy that isn't harsh and leaves your skin all red and blotchy. Many natural acne treatments are easy to do and require nothing more then a few lifestyle adjustments. The most effective way to treat adult acne is to drink water: at least 8 glasses over the course of the day. Don't drink it all at once; you'll spend more time in the bathroom then anywhere else. Water is the lubricant that makes the body run smoothly and helps expedite the removal of toxins that may contribute to acne. Keeping your skin clean is another way to help treat the outbreak of adult acne. 

Make sure to thoroughly clean all make-up products off you skin everyday, particularly before you go to bed. Doing so can cause you pores to clog trapping the acne causing bacteria in your skin. It is also a good idea to keep your hair away from your face. The oil on your hair can also lead to clogged pores. One of the more important things to remember when it comes to treating adult acne is to never pick at or pop your pimples. 

A pimple is nothing more than an infection in the pores of your skin and popping the pustule can cause the acne causing bacteria to spread to other pores. Eating a healthy diet is another good way to fight the affects of adult acne. While there is no scientific evidence that oily, fatty and high sugar foods can cause acne eating these types of foods in general is not a good idea. They just aren't that good for you body as a whole. Eating a diet high in fiber, anti-oxidants, and vitamins and minerals is the best way to go. The more efficient your body runs the better all the systems will work, including your biggest organ, your skin. A diet rich in bet-carotene and zinc is also recommended because these nutrients help not only prevent adult acne but also help the healing process and help to prevent scarring.

Monday, March 31, 2014

Successful Adult Alternative Dating

Possibilities can go beyond bounds. Nowadays there are a lot of ways to various adult alternative dating that can be more creative than people can just project by imagination. Adult alternative dating is the trend today. Is there anything about the phrase? It simply sounds non-mainstream. It means another way of meeting with someone, whether it will land to the same traditional intimate friendship to a casual get together, the word is just made fresh and new because of its existence in the internet. 

All in all, adult alternative dating is like talking about a new recipe about to unfold in the world of adults. Adult alternative dating is just a created clean idea. If it will lead to wilder side of the world, then it is just the outcome of what the person's orientation had been. If this kind of dating is your option in meeting up with someone, then you are the pilot of your destination. It could start by just bumping up with someone online. 

It doesn't have to be too artificial. Most of the time it comes naturally as a result of exchanging ideas in any interactive websites. When a person signs in at conversational exchanges in forums, each mental level mingles from different parts so the world. The subtle interactivity could lead to different forms of communication and interaction. By some good choice of words, it would be easy to knock with someone and hit the right track towards a fruitful start of an actual date. 

Actually, it all starts as naturally as possible. The only difference with using the Internet to start interacting and finding a date is the computer barrier. In the computer, you could be like any powerful hero or heroine. This could be made colorful by the use of words and choice of ideas you throw in. It will be easy to delete mistakes and add something savvy and achieve the perfect reputation all the time. Adult alternative dating online should more or less be harmless to adults only. 

The danger with this kind of dating style will mostly affect students who get hooked with non-realistic approach to intermingling with the opposite or same gender. Up to now, there is still no exact study on how it has changed the present world. Online interaction only leads more students to delinquency and Internet addiction. Actually, even responsible adults could also land to the same plight. Adult alternative dating could root from anywhere. 

Actually, it could start even in a very short email message. When it comes to getting serious with an alternative dating site, from which the purpose is to really match people from all walks of life, the sole objective is geared to commercial gains. What has become of this world that some business people want to earn from other's mutual interaction? In pure context, there is really nothing wrong about paying for membership just to find a matching date. 

It is your personal privacy to explore what fits him or her as long as he can manage to deal with it accordingly. The other side is when it involves another form of trafficking like prostitution. While in some countries, the trade is legal, what is being guarded usually is the free access to minors. When it comes to handling online adult choices, minors are simply not legally acceptable. Adult alternative dating is applicable to consenting people of the right age only or otherwise it will surely destroy the youth orientation towards healthy foundation of wholesome sexuality.

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

How to Have Massive Success in Adult Dating and Fulfill Your Wildest Fantasies

Follow These Essential Tips to Ensure You Get the Best out of Your Adult Dating Experience Fulfilling your wildest fantasies, fetishes and sexual desires has become easier than ever since the invention of adult dating online. It has become explosively popular over the past few years resulting in millions of members world wide. You can find an adult site that caters for almost every country of the world from Albania to China and even Gabon! There is a huge online community of people out there who you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies with. 

You can browse through adult photo galleries of men and women who are genuinely looking to fulfill their sensual desires with other consenting adults. Everything from Straight sex, gay sex, threesomes, swingers parties, fetishes, a naughty chat online and just about everything else you can think of (and some things you've never heard of!). Just looking through these sites is very steamy and lots of fun. The sites are very user friendly and it's free to browse. Many of the sites have lots of fun extra features like video chat rooms with sizzling video clips, 24hr live webcams and details of hot adult and swingers parties and events in your area. 

Getting Started in Adult Dating Online So where do you start out in the adult dating scene? Well there are many adult dating websites that have free trials with no credit card or payment required to register. Once you've found the site that interests you most, take advantage of the free trial and get your profile up to start having fun. It's that simple! With many sites, before you can contact other members you will usually have to pay something but that is where the fun begins! Before you decide to jump into the world of adult dating, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation and confidence. 

The adult dating sites contain plenty of mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking sexual encounters of all kind so be prepared! You must start off knowing what you want. You have to know what you're comfortable with and what you are not right from the outset. Do you just want a simple discreet encounter? Do you want a swinger's party? Is it a specific kind of encounter that you want? Are you curious about it all? Be clear in your own head what you want and don't let other people persuade you into anything you're not comfortable with. 

Stick to your guns and you'll have a great time. Essential Tips for Success on Adult Dating Sites Create a unique and descriptive username. Many people skip through this bit giving it no importance at all but your user-name is the first hint at what kind of person you are and what kind of encounter you want have. It needs to be original, memorable, and fun. It doesn't have to always be sexual but then again there is nothing wrong with a little tease. Be positive and go ahead and flatter yourself and see if you can incorporate in your username something about your great qualities. Write a compelling headline. Along with your picture and your username, this is what people view when browsing adult dating sites and it's your most powerful chance to entice a person and get them to open your full profile and find out more about you. 

your headline should compel people to read on and find out more. Don't be shy about being there and write - "I'm new to this sort of thing" - and don't write boring or uninteresting information like "My name's Jan, I'm 40 and am looking for fun in Sydney" This isn't enticing. It's boring and will most likely be overlooked. This headline is your sales pitch to get them to open your profile so make it intriguing if you can. Remember - The purpose of the headline just to tempt people to read more. That is its only purpose. Some good ones I have seen are "Open my profile and find out why my the last people I had a threesome with keep calling me back for more" And my other favorite...."Find out the five reasons why you'll want to play doctors and nurses with me!" Do you get the picture? They both make you intrigued to read on and find out what this person is all about. Another great thing to do is to browse through these websites and check out what other people are writing for their headlines. 

This will give you some ideas of what works and what doesn't. Creating your description of yourself You really have to approach writing this as if you were writing a resume or a marketing piece. It's a sales pitch to a person who can fulfill your wildest fantasies. Great ads are the ones that grab eyeballs and push people into action. A great advertisement should be a like a personalized enticing invitation asking others to get in touch right away. Stand out by being creative in your personal profile. Instead of doing the regular age and vital stats thingy, use personalized exiting copy telling people why they should want to engage with you. Don't be afraid to tell all the great things about you. You're aloud to flatter yourself. Confidence is one of the sexiest traits you can portray in your writing. 

That being said, keep the next point in mind... Be honest Make sure you resist the urge to embellish the truth too much when writing your online profile. Don't try to entice somebody by lying about how you look or what kinds of things you're into. It will only come back to bite you on the bum later (possibly literally!) Just keep it real. The last thing you want is to have to worry about all the fibs you told when you're on the 'dates' you've scored. This is a trap many people fall into. Don't let it happen to you. You Get Out What You Put in Like anything in life, you will get much more out of adult dating if you put a bit of effort into it. 

Remember that online 'dating' is designed to help get what you are looking for but without your input it would be like sitting in the toilets at a party! Send out lots of emails, chat to lots of people. You don't have to just pick one and wait to see what eventuates. Respond quickly to other peoples emails and you will get better results. Playing it Safe - Tips for Staying Safe when Adult Dating Keep Your Personal Details Private It is important that you remain anonymous in your early online communications with a person. Don't give out your real email address, last name, phone number, address or place of work during your correspondence. If a person places pressure on you to give this information do not give it out. 

If they are persistent or pesky stop all communications with them. It's best not to give out this information at all unless you have met with them (preferably more than once) and are satisfied that it is safe to do so. If possible check with your ISP and check that your online profile does not give out more personal information than you are comfortable with. You can keep your email address anonymous with email redirection services like Bigfoot or you can also just sign up for a separate email account to your main one and just use that exclusively for adult dating and other things you wish to remain anonymous for (obviously don't use you real name in the email address). Also be careful that any email signatures that you have do not give out personal details like your place of work, phone number, address or full name. 

Trust your Intuition 99% of people on line have the best of intentions but in order to keep that lousy 1% at bay make sure you follow these tips. If your online correspondent doesn't answer questions directly, lies, deliberately misleads you or just gives off a bad vibe, trust your better instincts and get rid of them fast. Better to find someone you can feel comfortable with Meeting in Person Don't allow yourself to be pressured into meeting a person before you ready. Make sure you do not agree to anything before you meet them in person. The first meeting should be like a bit like a date in that you still have room to make your mind up on whether you'd like to go ahead with any adult activity with the person your meeting. Make sure you meet in a public place the first time and if you like you can even organize for your friend to be nearby to keep an eye on you. Your online buddy will understand and accommodate your wishes if they are honest about their intentions towards you. If during the date, you decide to go somewhere else, use your own transport and try to stay in public places until you feel you know the person well enough. Going to your own home or theirs is not ideal. If you'd like to go somewhere more private it is best to go to a hotel (and ideally one that you make the reservation for)

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

You Too Can Find True Love Using Adult Dating Sites

'Hi'. It's a simple word sure enough, and it can be quiet an ice breaker too, but if you're out of practice of simply saying hello to strangers, then fear not, as the explosion of the adult dating sites has opened up a whole new medium for meeting other like minded singles. You see, dating in the real world has evolved into somewhat of a daunting task. Chatting to a potential mate has become more like an interview as potential daters attempt to suss each others worthiness out before committing to that first rendezvous together. 

When I first head about adult dating sites, I though such methods of hooking up were for losers or perhaps weirdoes who simply lived in a virtual world with virtual partners. Oh how wrong was I! There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions of lonely folks out there in the real world who have found themselves in a singles quandary after coming out of a marriage or long term relationship. If you're out of practice and don't fancy the idea of skulking around the bars and night clubs, then adult dating sites could be just what you need to find your next soul mate. 

Many of these adult dating sites work like this; you create a profile of yourself by filling in a questionnaire. Most require that you add a short description of yourself outlining your likes and dislikes. Finally, and this is important, you get the option of including a photo or two of your best mug shot. You don't have to but think how many ads you would consider if they were simply text based? Most singles filter their searches to find only those profiles with pictures, so it really is recommended it you are serious about finding a date. 

Most adult dating sites will give you a free membership but it usually has restrictions. You will be allowed to view all the singles on the site, but if you want to correspond with any of them, you will have to become a paid member in most cases. This is a great way to find the adult dating sites that interest you without that financial commitment. Only when you find a site or two that you like, do you need to get the ole credit card out, but don't worry, most of these memberships are very reasonable. 

Not all adult dating sites are for careful profile searchers though and some have services which have special categories such as speed dating forums, or special search functions for fetishes, or other bizarre preferences. Whoever you would like to meet, be it a fellow Christian or Jew, Asian or Caucasian, tall slender, young or old, then the world is your oyster with the ever growing popularity of the adult dating sites. Take it easy, be patient and persistent in your search for that certain somebody, and you will surely trek down that road of happy relationship in no time. Good luck!

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Online Single Dating - Adult Dating: Tips and Tricks

If you find yourself in the world of adult dating don't panic. There are many other adults just like you looking for a partner. Dating is not something that you were born with, it is something that you have to learn and work at. Adult dating can prove to be a very successful time in your life and even lead to love in many cases. With the ever-changing world there are some basic tips and tricks that can get you started again in the adult dating world.

Be your self not putting on any airs or incorrect portrayals of yourself. If you embellish the truth your date will likely uncover the facts and feel betrayed. When adult dating remember that honesty is the basis of any good relationship. So do not put on a fake smile or try to be something that you are not, this will not last. Every good relationship is built on a solid foundation and if you are not honest about who you are, the relationship will likely crater.

Be polite which means minding your manners and acting appropriately. Remember that your date may not find your cruel or insensitive joke funny. Most of the time with adult dating the other person has been around the block and is not likely to put up with nonsense. Keep the conversation light and do not bring up things that could be controversial or hurtful to the other party. By all means never say anything of a sexual or offensive manner. This is one of the leading causes of an early date ending. Respect your adult dating experience and keep comments that may be off color to yourself. Flirting is great when adult dating, but remember that too much flirting could seem like all you are after is sex. It is important that you let your date know that you are interested, but you don't want them to think that you have a one-track mind.

Many of the people that use the adult dating services are looking for compatibility and a relationship not a one-night stand. So remember to watch your words, jokes and comments. Keep the conversation in the yellow zone when adult dating. Do not discuss sex, religion or politics. These are issues that are controversial and can very easily lead to a disagreement. There is plenty of time to discuss sensitive information, but in the getting to know each other phase, it is not the time. Do not bombard your date with a lot of personal questions.

Asking about their life and experiences is fine, but do not ask about sexual partners or other very personal information. Adult dating should not be a question and answer session. It should be a pleasant conversation where you are looking to see if there could be something deeper and maybe even a relationship. So in other words when adult dating remember to respect your date. From the opening of the car door to kindness to the waiter, these are all issues that can provide a window to your soul. Most people want a partner that is kind, generous and sincere so if you are ugly to the hostess at the restaurant your date can assume that you might treat them that way in a few years. So make sure that you behave and mind your manners when adult dating, your date is watching you.

Friday, March 7, 2014

How Adult Dining Can Be Just As Fun As the Kid-Friendly Kind!

While many people are aware of the multiple family and kid-friendly dining opportunities at the Walt Disney World Resort, a lesser known fact is this: Disney has many wonderful opportunities for adult dining as well. Adult dining at the Walt Disney World Resort can be just as magical as the kid-friendly variety. 

Many mouth-watering opportunities await, and while I can not go through each and every detail, I would like to list a few options that await you on your next Disney vacation: Citricos - Disney's Grand Floridian Resort and Spa - Soak in relaxed sun-drenched southern European ambiance. Enjoy flavorful American fare inspired by the legendary cuisine of Proven├že, Tuscany and the Spanish Riviera. 

The market-fresh Mediterranean cooking is fresh, light and simply stylish. California Grill - Disney's Contemporary Resort - Venture into the vibrant and charged atmosphere and watch culinary masterpieces being created in the on-stage kitchen. This award-winning restaurant on the 15th floor of Disney's Contemporary Resort features spectacular views of Seven Seas Lagoon and the Magic Kingdom® Park. 

Tip - Be sure to make a reservation during the evening fireworks as you'll be treated to a very unique and spectacular view. Yachtsman Steakhouse - Disney's Yacht Club - Set sail for this ship-shape steakhouse for quality, aged, grain-fed USDA beef. Black Angus Beef is dry aged in our custom aging room from where you can personally select your own cut of meat. All meat, ranging from filet mignon, porterhouse, bourbon strip and Angus prime rib, is cooked over our oak fired grill, in an on-stage kitchen. Victoria and Albert's - Disney's Grand Floridian Resort and Spa - Indulge your discriminating culinary tastes at this elite, intimate and elegant eatery recognized by the nation's top food critics. This very-special-occasion romantic Victorian retreat offers nightly harpists, lavish decor, personalized menus and a long-stem rose for each lady.

Friday, February 28, 2014

Online Dating Service For Adults

Online dating service for adults has become increasingly popular as the internet becomes more and more prevalent in the lives of people. It has open doors for a lot of busy people that don't have the time to think about how they will meet that special someone. Though online dating service caters to both teens and adults alike, an adult dating service is quite different from a teen dating service for the reason that teenage dating is a preparation for young people to the adult world. 

Adult sites entail great responsibility and maturity. However, online dating service for adults is fairly safe even it entails responsibility, because you are not obliged to reveal your identity if you don't want to. You can remain anonymous if you so choose and share as little or as much information as you like. When choosing the best dating services, you have to consider the following points: Highly Popular Sites There are several adult dating services online and each of them offers services that can benefit its members. 

You can have the best results if you choose sites that are highly popular because they have a lot of members where the chances of finding the right person are high. What's more promising is that they offer free trial periods before allowing yourself to commit to them. You can post your free profile with a picture to determine if there are responses to your profile and enables you to search for your perfect partner to be. 

Diversity Of Members You have to choose online dating service for adults that have numerous members, so as to have a lot of choices. You can select from the numerous choices depending upon your interest, the person's hobbies, personality or even religion. It is important to remember though that you must not base your choices merely on looks. You must find a person that poses a well rounded attraction, which means that they are physically and emotionally attractive.

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Why Should Adults Continue their Education?

Education has become a necessity to survive in this world. We cannot even imagine living in this world without education. This is why a lot of countries around the world have started to pay attention to providing education to their nationals. The governments of all countries, especially those of developing and underdeveloped countries are taking great measures in making education reachable to all people. 

There has been a lot of awareness among people regarding education and its necessity. Everyone sees to it that their kids get quality education. But across the world, there are many adults who may have discontinued their studies due to various reasons such as family commitments, poverty, and many other things. Generally, when the literacy rate of any nation is calculated, the number of people who have dropped out of their schools mid-way leads to the decline in the literacy rate of that country. 

These adults must continue their education to boost the literacy rate of their nation, as well as in the eyes of the world. Well educated elders can lead younger citizens in the right path. To guide their children in their studies, adults must be educated themselves. As the adults have the responsibility of supporting their families, they may be reluctant to join these higher education programs. Adult education programs offer financial assistance and they help you apply for scholarships to help pursue your education. 

You can take advantage of these aids and continue your education as well as pursue a parallel career. Your career will be more prosperous and you can get a more lucrative job if you complete your higher education. Your professional experience coupled with your achievements in the professional field will contribute to a stronger background for your employment. Education can only help strengthen your profile further. 

These adult education programs can also be conducted online. If time is going to be a hindrance for you in pursuing your studies, you can enroll yourself in these online degree programs. The course materials are provided online and you are allowed to take your exams up online, as well. This will help you get your higher degrees in the comfort of your own home.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Virtual Worlds For Children, Tweens and Teens

Virtual worlds have become a growing power in kids' online activities. In 2008, an estimated eight million US children and teens visited virtual worlds on a regular basis. It is estimated that by 2013 this number will be doubled. These online worlds are a relatively new phenomenon, so there isn't much research on their impact on kids. As parents, we ask: Is it safe? Is it educational? Do our children benefit from this activity? In lack of long-term research the best answer seems to be that like every other activity we choose to do, when it is measured and in balance with other activities, it can be enjoyable, harmless and sometimes even educational. It is our responsibility as parents to direct our children to safe constructive activities that will help them to grow as people and become contributing citizens. 

The same thing is true for choosing online activities for them and specifically for virtual worlds. As parents we have to make sure that our children visit virtual worlds that are suited for their age and are safe for them. We also want to direct our children to virtual worlds that offer quality content and educational value. What is a virtual world? Virtual worlds are services which offer Internet users a computer simulated environment imitating the real world. In the virtual world the user interacts by using an avatar (a two-dimensional or a three-dimensional computer graphic identity, which represent a user's alter ego or the user's real persona) in online chats. There are two main types: Massively Multiplayer Online Games (MMOGs) - These virtual worlds use point systems and competition in the simulation. They have winners and losers. 

Commercial MMOGs include Everquest and World of Warcraft. Non-game worlds - These virtual worlds are less game-like, or not games at all. They are more like social networking services like MySpace and Facebook, but with 3D simulation features. For example, Second Life, ActiveWorlds and The Sims Online. What are the risks for kids in virtual worlds? Children and teenagers can easily get absorbed in a virtual world. It is an enjoyable pastime allowing them to try different points of view and avatars. The danger is when a child is invested more in the virtual life than in real life. This may result in withdrawal from real life activities, poor social skills, loss of ability to distinguish between the real and the imaginary, etc. It is important to limit the time a child or teenager spends surfing virtual worlds in order to keep the child's base in the real world. 

Private information may be exposed in virtual worlds when a child is persuaded to give up his/her real identity to strangers. It is important to emphasize to the child not to give away private information under any circumstances. Sometimes virtual worlds especially ones that are intended for teens can become violent environments. Many virtual worlds have guardians - adults that have avatars in the game and are there to keep the peace. These guardians can not always stop violent behavior. It is important for parents of teens to be involved in their children's online activities and to instruct them how to behave in problematic situations. Online predators sometimes use social network services and virtual worlds to target potential victims. They pose as children and gradually seduce them into an online relationship. 

This relationship might end in sexual abuse. The chance of your child being targeted by online predator is low, but since such an encounter has severe consequences, parents should be aware and make sure that their kids don't get involved in online relationships with strangers. All of these risks are worrying, but it seems that the greatest risk in virtual worlds for kids is the inherently commercial nature of many of them. Kids are encouraged to buy clothes, toys, food, books and more for their avatars using the virtual world currency. In some worlds they have to play games in order to earn "money", in some they buy the virtual world currency with real money. You can see in many virtual worlds, avatars that are dressed in high fashion clothing and have expensive cars and homes. Many virtual worlds have a strong correlation between consumption and citizenship. 

Kids are learning that in order to be a good citizen they have to buy the right stuff. Many virtual worlds also have a lot of advertisement. In order to avoid this commercial nature, parents should direct their children to non-commercial virtual worlds that usually have more educational value. What are the Benefits of Virtual Worlds for Children? In virtual worlds kids are involved in informal learning. By trying different avatars, points of view and jobs they play out scenarios over and over from different angles. They can see what approach is best for them. They learn how to socialize, how to be Internet savvy, how to buy and sell online and how to be members of a society. They learn skills that they'll need in the future workforce. Matching the Virtual World to the Child's Age When choosing a virtual world for your kids or checking the ones your kids use, it is important to keep the age factor in mind. 

Today children surf in online worlds from the age of three (usually with adult help) to 18. It is important to see that the virtual world they enter is safe for their age and offers appropriate content. There are three major age groups: Young children - age 3-10. Kids in this age group are just starting to discover the cyber world. They often need help from an adult in order to surf. It is not recommended to let children at this age surf without adult supervision. It is important to make sure that the virtual worlds the child surfs are safe, enclosed environments. There should be no advertisement (or very little). Online chats and forums, if such exist, should be limited and monitored. Tweens or juniors - age 10-14. Tweens are kids who are stuck in this phase between being young kids and being teens. 

Children at this age range usually have good technological and language abilities that allow them to surf freely. On the other hand, they lack the maturity and experience to help them understand the content that they encounter when surfing-they need adult guidance. They are a vulnerable population. Their high technological abilities and desire to socialize exposes them to risks, as well as their PC and private family information. Tweens will usually look for more complex online worlds that will allow them to chat with their friends freely. It is important for parents of tweens to be involved as much as they can in their kids' online activities. Parents should direct their tweens to virtual worlds they find suited for them. Guidelines for Internet use should be defined. These guidelines should emphasize Web ethics and privacy protection. Include the child when defining the guidelines in order to make the child more committed to them. An Internet-use policy may help in making those guidelines clear. 

Parents should talk to their kids about Internet threats, such as: malware attacks, online predators, harassments, and give them examples of immediate solutions, for example: turning off the PC and notifying a parent. Most important is to give your children confidence about approaching the adults in the family in case they encounter suspicious behavior when surfing. Teenagers - age 14-18. Teens have fully developed technological and language skills. They are confident surfing the Internet (sometimes more than their parents). The Internet becomes a strong social and educational tool in their life. Teens are usually more aware of the risks that exist on the web. On the other hand, in this age group there is a tendency for risk taking. In addition, teens usually use a PC in the privacy of their own room, or they go to places that allow them to surf without supervision. So it is nearly impossible to monitor the teenager's Internet activities. Teens will usually be attracted to adult virtual worlds. Adult virtual worlds are not always suited for teenagers. In some you can encounter cybersex activity and violence. It is important for parents of teens to keep being involved in their kids' online activities. Offering teens appropriate websites that may interest them could be a great solution. There are virtual worlds for teens that offer great content and are non-commercial. Parents should also emphasize Web ethics to their teenagers and warn them about Internet threats.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites

People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about it. As regular dating sites are seen as too tame to meet their adventurous needs people are posting adult personals through adult dating websites. Every day thousands of people seeking alternative lifestyles write uncensored adult personals ads. Adult dating websites offers an enticing adult dating community where you are free to share and explore your wildest fantasies. 

 Imagine browsing through adult photo galleries of handsome men and beautiful women of every size and shape - just waiting to respond to your adult personals. There are many adult dating websites that have 100% free trials with no credit card or payment required to register. In fact, adult personals are extremely steamy and attention grabbing. Upon entering an adult dating website you will find all types of adult personals. 

The website designs' are user-friendly so that you can find your preferences whether its swingers personals, married personals, interracial personals, gay personals or BBW personals. The opportunities offered by adult dating websites includes video chat rooms with sizzling video clips or watch 24hr live webcams of attractive people whose attire leaves little to the imagination. Plus, you can play interactive games or find out about the hottest adult parties and events in your area. Some of the top adult dating websites are Yahoo adult personals and Adult Friend Finder personals. 

In the exciting world of adult personals, people are often looking for discreet local relationships. But before you jump into the world of adult personals or brave the gates of any adult dating website, you should have a healthy self-image and a sense of self-liberation. What's more, the adult dating sites contain mature material, pictures and contents for individuals seeking alternative encounters. Like happiness, prosperity, love and fulfillment, we all seek to achieve our outmost desires. Adult personals and adult dating website have found a niche by creating an environment where every desire can achieve satisfaction. With so much to gain, it's worth at least a free look, isn't it? You bet it is!

Thursday, January 30, 2014

How Adult Education Works

Education has become an indispensable part of everybody's life. Education is essential to keep oneself in pace with the advancements in science and technology and to have an in-depth knowledge about the world we live in. But all of us are not blessed with the opportunity to achieve great heights in studies. Often, it is the social and economic background that determines the level of education of every individual. Most school or the college dropouts almost always regret their decisions later in life. To soothe the worries of these people, adult education programs were started. 

Initially, these programs dealt with elementary level education. The main idea behind these programs was to provide basic education to dropouts. But now, times have changed and along with it, the various trends too. Now these adult education programs can fetch you higher education too. If you are a college dropout who feels that your career would have been much more prosperous if you had finished your college education, then you can enroll yourself in the degree programs conducted exclusively for adults. 

Many renowned universities all over the world conduct these programs. If you wish to take up these educational programs directly from their respective centers, you can do so. Otherwise many distance education programs are also conducted which can be of great use for people seeking further education. There is another interesting feature of these programs that helps to make adult education easier on the people participating; these programs are also available online. 

There are many famous universities worldwide that offer online education programs for adults. These programs will help you get degrees from international universities with much ease. The exams are also conducted online. Many universities and colleges offer educational loans to help you continue your adult education. Adult education programs can helpful when you need information on how to obtain these loans. Adult education programs are very helpful for those who are yearning to pursue their education from where they left off. Adult education programs will surely uplift the social and economic condition of every country in the world.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

It's Cool To Be A Big Kid In An Adult World

"Oh cool, look at that. Let's go check it out" said Justin to his friend. "What an idiot he is. Doesn't he know that is against the law? What is even worse is the town does nothing about it" said Carl. Justin is about ten or twelve years old. Carl is a "tad" older. Okay, he is lots of tads older. Both Justin and Carl were commenting on the same thing. 

They were talking about the seaplane which had just landed on the small lake where I live. What happens to people when they get older? That which was fun; that which was cool, daring and bold; is now morally wrong, illegal or idiotic? What happens to our sense of adventure? Our sense of play? Our sense of fun? We seem to not only have lost it from 9 to 5; many seem to have lost it 24/7/365. Client demands. Boss demands. Employee demands. Spouse/Partner demands. Kid demands. Civic Responsibilities. Household responsibilities. Volunteer responsibilities. Sound familiar? It's enough to drive the stress level up to the heavens. 

Where's the fun? Where's the fun? It's in your mind if you can shift it just for a few moments. And the fun is waiting to burst out! Why is it that some office staff can head out the door for lunch or for a walk while others are just "too busy?" Are we really too busy to laugh and bond with colleagues for thirty minutes over last night's episode of South Park? I am writing this article one week before Halloween. When was the last time you stopped and looked at the level of commitment that some people have when it comes to decorating their homes. 

The same goes for other holidays. Or are you too busy rushing home to jump on your computer to see what email arrived since you left the office twenty minutes ago? Perhaps you're a Blackberry Driver? When was the last time you pulled over to the side of the road after seeing a sign that offered fresh blackberries for sale? Years ago I worked for Avon in Rye, New York. Our office was a short distance away from the Rye Playland amusement park. This was back in the day when amusements parks had a pay-per-ride policy. (I'm 44 years old if you need to know.) Relieving the stress of the day involved taking a walk down to that amusement park during lunch and riding the Dragon Coaster a few times. A little bit of laughing. A little bit of screaming. A little bit of time to appreciate that we all have a Big Kid in us somewhere. Where's yours? I know it's in there.

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Some Tips For Being a Good Mother to Your Adult Child

A good mother always instructs her children with the hope that they'll mature into successful, respectable adults. However, there comes a time when children feel that they've been given enough parental advice and want to make their own decisions. This usually occurs well before children are capable of facing world on their own. Nevertheless, when a child reaches early adulthood, he or she does have the right to make decisions beyond the sphere of parental influence-a transition that's always harder for the parent than for the child. 

Relinquishing parental control over your children requires you to break longstanding parental habits, especially in terms of how you communicate with your child. To successfully transition from responding to your child as a "child" to responding to him or her as an adult, it's essential that you recognize your child's status as an adult, which means that, however strange it feels, you have to let your children follow their passions and dreams without taking them to task at every little turn. But there's no need for you to feel as if you're on the outside looking in, not when you can share in your child's adult interests. If you feel like your child doesn't want you to do this, it's probably because you've been acting like your child is still a child. Start to respect you're his or her adulthood and you'll be amazed at the new avenues of communication that open up. 

Accomplishing this won't be easy; it means that you'll have to support some of your child's life decisions even if you disagree with them. This doesn't mean supporting your children as they walk into harm's way, but it does mean being extremely honest with yourself about whether you advise your child out care and concern or merely out of personal opinion. If your children start using drugs, for example, you should step in. But if they're simply doing something that you don't personally approve of, like getting a strange piercing, it's time to back off. You don't want to sacrifice your relationship for the sake of superficialities. 

The most crucial step in maintaining a healthy relationship with your adult child is to never stop examining your own behavior. Are you acting like the mother of an adult child or the mother of an adolescent? For over a decade, you've been used to setting inflexible rules and giving necessary ultimatums, which makes it's easy to revert back to your old ways. Motherhood doesn't end when your children reach adulthood. But, in order to be the best mother possible, your parenting style should respect the individuality of your adult children. 

You're motherly advice is still valid, but it's essential to remember that you're now speaking to an adult, not a toddler or an adolescent who has no idea what the adult world is like. Adjusting you're communication style to respect your child's adulthood will take time and effort, but once you finally make the transition, you'll enjoy a relationship with your children that's just as pleasurable as the relationship that you had with them when they were still children.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

The Problems of Setting up an Adult Content Site

As with any other business, the adult industry is not without its problems. Beginnings are always tough for any new endeavor. If you plan on starting your own adult site, you may want to consider the following problems that new adult merchants encounter. 

1.The ever-tightening law belt against adult-related content - Law enforcement agencies have knuckled down on protecting younger Internet users from exposure to content deemed immoral. Some laws have also been laid down for what's good for consumption of the general public and what's not. For instance, the Child Online Protection Act of 1998 makes it illegal for adult site owners to post child pornography, at least in the United States. While the existing laws may not necessarily be able to cover your particular brand of adult content, it cannot be denied that it has had a certain ripple effect throughout the industry. One way to deal with this hindrance to success is simply to know what's legal and what's not. Do not risk limiting your goods and services to a genre that may be banned in countries that are major target markets. 

2.Hosting limitations - Most web hosts have a contingency against adult-related sites, mostly because they don't want adult material on their servers. Two other things that go against adult website operators in this context is their demand for high bandwidth and disk space to cover the site's high traffic, high volume streaming and media-rich content. If you are looking for a host, make sure to get one that will be able to cover both requirements. While some mainstream hosts are willing to work with adult site owners, they may not understand the business as in depth as an industry-specific host could. 

3.Difficulty in acquiring an adult merchant account - Perhaps the toughest problem to overcome, acquiring a merchant account can be a time-consuming and difficult process for the adult merchant. First among the things to contend with would be the killer rates. As adult businesses are considered high risk account, they are often subjected to sky-high fees. The best solution to this problem would be to find a payment processor catering specifically to the adult industry. One example would be AdultMerchantPay. This particular online payment processor offers low-cost accounts with no upfront fees. An adult merchant account service provider would also understand the need of the adult merchant for optimum security and should be able to provide this with an advance technology payment gateway. 

4.Lack of compelling content available- Webmasters of adult sites are always looking for something fresh and something new. While many sites offer good content, what you should be looking for in a supplier is: 1) variety; 2) original content; and 3) the legal stuff. As previously mentioned, not all content is deemed legal. So aside from looking for the good stuff, make sure you are dealing with the legal ones as well. 

5.Market satiated with free products and services - To say that the competition in the adult world is tight is an understatement. There are hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of adult content websites out there. Why should the average consumer pay for your services and goods when a glut of free online adult entertainment content can easily be accessed online? The answer to this problem may be less complex than you think. Offer a service that is different from what everyone else out there has. Focusing on your own niche is the best way to get your audience to be loyal subscribers. 

One thing to remember when starting an adult site: With the right mix of marketing savvy, great content and old-fashioned hard work, your adult website can, and most likely will, succeed. While other entertainment businesses may suffer from an economic roller coaster, the adult industry will feel nary a sting from the ups and downs of a country's financial state. 

The reason is obvious, access to online adult content is easier to acquire than any other entertainment venue (say movies, plays or fine dining). Adult sites are only a click away and subscriptions to a site will last longer than what a consumer gets when paying for dinner and a movie. Aside from having accessibility on its side, the probability of its success is also driven by the consistently high demand for adult-related material. 

Thousands of subscribers keep the industry afloat by continuing to pay big bucks on a recurring basis. So make sure you have original, eye-popping content that is within the legal boundaries of your target market. Get a host that can cater to your specific needs and an adult merchant account provider that will ensure you get paid for all your troubles.

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Understanding Attention Deficit Disorder In Adults

Attention Deficit Disorder, also known as ADD, or its slightly worse cousin ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, can occur in adults as well as children, although most people simply think of it that is limited to kids. Adults can have it as well in varying degrees, although most adults who have it did not acquire it suddenly, but have had ADD since childhood. Many adults who had attention deficit disorder when they were younger children were able to overcome it as they grew and matured. They developed the extra strength required to focus their concentration on the task at hand, and therefore were able to keep up with the other kids in school. 

The maturity of the adult world is also helpful in this regard since they know better how adults behave, what is required of an adult, and to concentrate more than their peers to maintain focus on a task. Recent studies would indicate that approximately 2% to 5% of the entire population is affected by attention deficit disorder, which includes adults. Sometimes when ADD occurs in adults, it is known as Adult Attention Deficit Disorder, or AADD. Although adult ADD is significantly rarer than children with ADD, it is not unheard of. 

For kids, it is estimated that 1 in about 15 children have ADD or ADHD to some degree, and the more severe cases are the ones where the afflicted person will not grow out of it as they get old and mature, which creates a major problem in modern society. For adults, it is estimate that approximately 4% of all adults have ADD to a certain degree. One method of dealing with ADD in children or adults, interestingly enough, is through karate. The reason for this is because karate requires intense mental concentration and focus, and a good karate master will teach the mental discipline necessary to master the art of karate. For the ADD-afflicted person, focusing the mental energies requires more effort than his peers in the karate class, but once mastered, the extra benefit is that this has gone a very long way towards coping with or even neutralizing the ADD symptoms.