Monday, July 27, 2015

The Comforting Effects of Nursery Blankets on Kids

Nursery blankets mean the world to kids. As adults, we sometimes forget that the world that children is in is very different from ours. How is it different?

For one, kids need a lot of security. They are just beginning to learn about life on this planet we call Earth. And since there are still so many things they don't know, or have yet to discover, the world can be a scary place to be in. Therefore, kids need to be comforted by people or objects that they are familiar with - like nursery blankets or pillows.

Also, in the world of a kid, anything is possible. A child has unlimited potential to imagine. The possibilities are endless. So security blankets are comforting to them because they sometimes have objects of imagination printed on them. Objects such as their favorite cartoon characters, characters from their favorite fairy tales, etc. These designs have a positive impact on the child - they provide comfort.

The adult world is the real world. Adults have to face up to reality, whether they like it or not. And not everything in the real world is a bed of roses. In fact, to many people, the real world is a harsh and cruel world. In other words, life is difficult. And if adults are experiencing that, what about kids? For sure, the world can be a huge and confusing place.

That's why when kids go to bed, they always require reassurance - that everything is going to be alright. Some will ask their mothers to read to them, while others will not let their parents turn off the lights. They have such funny requests because they have feelings of insecurity.

Therefore, when buying a nursery blanket for a kid, don't just think about providing a piece of cloth that keeps the child warm. That's just providing physical comfort. More importantly, the nursery blanket should provide psychological comfort. In other words, it should provide a strong sense of security for the kid.

Once the kid becomes familiar with nursery blanket, the parent will have an easier time getting a child to go to bed. After a long day, it's time to retract into the welcoming warmth of the nursery blanket and have a good night's sleep.

The nursery blanket thus becomes a sanctuary for the kid. Have you observed that when a kid is frightened (for example, after reading a spooky story book), he or she will go hide under a nursery blanket? Why would a kid do that? A kid does that naturally because he or she thinks that the nursery blanket can offer protection.

So don't take the issue of a nursery blanket too lightly. In a kid's world, the nursery blanket is a big deal, even though adults tend to think otherwise. But pay attention to the needs of the kids. Kids provided with a stronger sense of security will grow up feeling more assured and confident.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

adolescents with issues of gender and sexual disorientation disorientation

One of the cases that we handle a lot of the last ten years is a teenager with issues of gender and sexual disorientation disorientation. This time let me share about some cases of sexual disorientation in adolescents.

Case 1

Verra (pseudonym) a level 2 student, a sweet-looking, consultation turmoil about his relationship with Rinny. Both Indonesian students who study in America. Initially just a good friendship, because Rinny very warm and friendly.

Originally Verra feel lonely when newly arrived in America. Verra had locked himself in his apartment, in addition to lectures. He keeps the bitterness in his father forced him to break up with a guy who he loved so much. In the middle of that situation won her Rinny. Attention, sacrifice, willingness Rinny be a place to vent, very touching Verra.

Originally Verra not know that Rinny lesbian. But when Rinny start making out invites, Verra could not resist, even though his heart felt something odd. Eventually, Verra enjoy it.

Case 2

Samson 20 years (pseudonym). One of his brothers were sent to counseling because he did similar relationship with Allex (22 yrs). Samson, came from a relatively harmonious. Samson is very loved papa, mama and her two sisters. He was the youngest and the only boy.

According to Samson, there is no intention of doing similar relationship with Allex. Only he was taken aback when he first migrated. She felt very lonely. Usually he is familiar joking with his brother, still dikeloni Mama before bedtime, dimanjain daddy as the only son. Suddenly all was lost. Hospital, said Samson. I really miss the touch and attention.

Until one day Allex, sister and friend level boarding house, likes to invite him to chat while lying diranjangnya. At first just a chat. Eventually Allex began groping her private parts. Samson was strange, but he refused bad, because during this Allex who understand their needs. Samson also thought, yet there is no danger. Over time, he enjoyed until that relationship even further.

Case 3

Tonny 16 years (pseudonym), a class of high school students. He grew up in a broken-home. His father likes to hit hard and Tonny. His own mother ignored because it is so busy with the business. Relatively rare Tonny papa mama at home. Not to mention his parents quarreling fiercely in front of Tony.

The friends of Tony likes to play house. Incidentally Tonny big house, and he lived in a separate part of the house from her parents. Tony and his so free to do anything. It's been 3 years, since I was a junior Tony frequent masturbation.

One day his friend offered to help Tony to masturbate. The initial goal was just playing around. But Tony finally enjoy the game, and without realizing it is too far in similar relationships.

Similar reasons Teens Trying Relations

Of the three cases above, there are some reasons teens fall in similar relationships

First, hidden anger to hatred to the father who does not teselesaikan. That Being doors Verra withdrawn. Until one day there was a college friend, both from Indonesia, attention and genuine love. According to Verra, under his conscious he was familiar with his female friend to avenge the hurt on his father. Because his father had forced him to break with the guy hero. Verra and Rinny relationship stronger both physically and emotionally. They are already planning a same-sex marriage over the objections of their parents. But it seems the road is still dark.

Second, the case of Samson. Excessive emotional attachment relationships with parents and her brother Samson Makes less skilled tend to get along. Comfort zone at home, making samson awkward at school and on campus. He was a friend in college hostile, often taunting him as a child mommy. Less slang, etc. weird. Samson is not ready to split up and wander. As a result, when the friend kostnya attention, for he was very unusual. It Creates a sense of obligation. Samson finally could not resist when his best friend who is a Gay Allex sex invite.

Third, Tonny case. Abusive father indifferent mother make poor Tonny emotionally. Tonny escape from discomfort to parents by way of enclosed rooms. Since he knew pornography, he increasingly unable to contain his desire always masturbation. Jock friends are also the same. Bad company, has brought Tony into the kind of relationship.

Most of them have the tendency early on, like the same sex. Like the case of some clients that camp since 3 SD had a tendency to feel it. There is a regard (sure) is genetic and difficult to change. For groups who think so, are usually more difficult to help.

Others, however, there are similar relations for trapped situation and friendship is wrong. For this group as Verra, Samson and Tony, actually there is a way in to change. This can be done with family counseling approach. Recovery of a sick family system to personal rapprochement parents and children. But it is difficult to change is the parents. But once again this is not an easy process, there is a long hallway that must be followed

Others there were only orientation course but did not actively. Commonly called a passive homosexual (latent). Fantasy sex with the opposite sex they are not, but are interested in similar.

Some obstacles

1. Clients do not want to open on her parents. Feeling scared etc..

2. Parents do not want to open for consultation, because they feel embarrassed and considers it a disgrace the family.

3. Low public acceptance of those who have similar sexual orientation. This makes them feel comfortable only if it is in their own communities.

4. Attitude clergy and dogma or doctrine that tends not to judge, but it does not provide any solution to their problems. Thus making them good teachings was no power to change them.

Indeed, many more cases around us. Acceptance of gays and lesbians also had reached the world level, the United Nations. In some European countries and the USA also legalized. It is not yet accepted in our country.

I myself can understand and accept, and hang out with some of my friends who have same-sex orientation. Some of them are even friends are warm, friendly, kind, and succeed in their careers. There are even active help our seminars, while assisting those who want to change.


Our clients generally come to counseling feeling guilty. Longs helped to get out of that situation. It's just not a simple process to recovery. Therefore the best solution is: I ask, prevention is better than cure.

In the experience as a therapist, helped some of our clients because of the acceptance of family, community support and therapy (counseling) intensive. Although sexual orientation is no "rest" for life, but their behavior changed. They won.

Sunday, May 25, 2014

The Future Of Adult Dating Personals

Adult dating personals have definitely become a force to reckon with, with the number one site in this market recently becoming the eighth biggest site on the internet! But why has it become so popular as of late and what's involved when it comes to setting up your own adult dating personals? A Safe Place Turn The number one reason why adult friend finder sites have become so incredibly popular in recent history is because of the ability of the internet to allow people to chat anonymously about the subject of sex. 

In the outside world if this occurred, people would almost certainly find out, which would be an embarrassing thing to have to put up with! Adult dating personals allow people to post things about themselves, usually personal things and remain anonymous. Screen names are used as a pseudonym, which means complete anonymity. This inevitably allows you to be a completely different person, the person you have always dreamed of being and it is this one point alone that has enticed so many people into using such adult dating services. 

So What's Involved? If you are planning on joining one of these services, you can get involved easily and usually for free. Once you have a membership, the next step is to set up your profile of which will be seen by potentially millions of people from all around the world. The one thing that is not mandatory is your personal contact details. That means you don't have to put down your real name if you don't want too. In your membership you will also be able to search for and converse with other members from over the world. 

You can also edit your profile as well as some other cool search functions such as finding people in your local area, which is good if you plan on meeting some of the other members in person. There is one thing that people are mistaken by when it comes to these particular sites and it's this. The majority of people that use adult friend finding services are people like you and me and not crazy sex addicts. Actually if you are a crazy sex addict, it's likely that you'll be kicked out faster than you can say "I want some!" Most services keep pretty close eyes on their members to make sure there are no people in there for the wrong reason. Unfortunately the internet as well as creating a lot of good things has also bred a small group of people that have malicious ideas. Just make sure you really get to know the people in their before you decide to arrange a meeting, chances are things will be OK but you can never be certain enough.

Sunday, May 18, 2014

The 4 Steps of Personal Change For Adults With ADHD

Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (AD/HD) offers many gifts. I've never met an adult with AD/HD who wasn't creative, compassionate, and driven, in one form or another. We hold in abundance many qualities that the rest of world sometimes seems to lack. But while AD/HD has its upside, there is no denying that many of us often find ourselves out of sync with the rest of the world. Our time management skills are usually poor. Our abilities to prioritize and organize often need work. And a host of other challenges present themselves when an adult with AD/HD tries to thrive in a world full of non-AD/HDers. 

 Like everyone else, there are things about ourselves that we find we need to change. If it were easy to change old habits and thought patterns, there would be no need for therapists, coaches, or self-help books. Life would be simple. And it would be boring. When positive, personal changes are adapted, like sharpening time management skills or adapting techniques for better focus, the result is a renewed sense of confidence and an increase in the options that are available to us. I've always thought of change as a 4-part process: 

1.Education It's information that inspires change. Becoming educated about AD/HD and the way it can affect adults is the first step to identifying changes that need to be made. This stage can last quite a long time before the next step is undertaken. Knowledge is like a seed and the mind, all by itself, is a fertile garden. 

2. Awareness Self-awareness is key when making personal change. It's impossible to change that which we are not aware of. An adult with AD/HD must practice self awareness in all areas of life to determine what's working, and what isn't. This is a time when one begins to realize that certain behaviors and actions have propelled you forward, and others have held you back. 

3. Reframing It's important to realize that every person always does the best they can. No one purposefully under-performs, under-achieves, or disappoints. When you give yourself enough credit to explore why you might do certain things the way you do, you can reframe your behaviors and actions with the understanding that they are there for a reason, and not because you are inadequate. 

4. Action The action step often happens on its own. When an adult with AD/HD gains knowledge, practices awareness, and realizes the positive reasons that change needs to take place, action will unconsciously follow.

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Adult Web Hosting

Of all websites on the internet, there are just a few that require a level of hosting service that demands more than most websites. One of them is adult websites. There is no argument that adult sites have the most number of visits among web surfers. And a well-promoted adult site can easily attract millions of web surfers to tax even the most bandwidth generous web hosting bureau. 

Web hosting has become a lucrative online business catering from small personal websites and blogs up to commercial merchant portals processing thousands of online transactions per day. For most of these, shared web hosting services can suffice. But when the site reaches critical levels of visitor traffic where bandwidth, uptime availability becomes crucial to the business generated on the web, you are looking beyond ordinary web hosting. 

Dedicated web hosting service becomes a must. Commercial adult websites are one special type that can be extremely demanding of its web host. Apart from looking at the uptime, bandwidth and storage space dimensions of hosting an adult website, the web hosting bureau also needs to check the legal implications as well. 

Does the country where the server resides allow adult sites to be hosted? Once the legal hurdles are covered, then the technical aspects can now be handled. Here are some of the things to consider when hosting an adult website: Check that the hosting site supports adult sites. Even in a country where adult sites are regulated by local or federal laws, there are web host bureaus that prefer not to host adult sites. 

Check out their terms and conditions page and it should indicate if they allow adult content to be hosted. If you do a Google search on the term "adult web hosting," you get about 2.1 million search returns. These are hosting sites or reference sites to other hosting companies scattered around the world that can provide hosting services for adult webpages. Most of these sites specialize in adult content and it is often quite easy to spot one right away. 

Bandwidth, Storage Space and Uptimes Once you've limited your choices to the sites that host adult material, the next criteria to check are the host's bandwidth, storage space and guaranteed uptimes. They will come at a premium. Almost all hosting sites offer about $5 basic monthly hosting charge, but they cover just the basic. 

Don't get impressed with the site's ads claiming gigabyte bandwidths and storage spaces as many sites practice overselling them in the hope that those bandwidth and storage spaces will hardly be used. But when you are planning for an adult website, this won't work. You will need a dedicated web host with sufficient storage for all your adult content and the bandwidth to support its download for thousands of web surfers at any given time. 

And factor in video streaming and you will need all the bandwidth you can get in order not to turn off your visitors or members. Peak times and lean times may not really apply because your audience is the entire world. Support for the most common image and video file types as well as their sizes is a must. Adult sites are known for providing large high resolution images its members can download. 

These files in the JPG formats do eat gigabytes of storage space especially when you have an archive section. More so with video files with the more common avi, and mpeg4 formats. Video files eat huge bandwidths. Be especially wary of web hosts that advertise terabytes of data speeds for a few dollars a month. 

They are of the low quality high latency bandwidth. While this may be fine for most websites, your streaming video will just stutter and alienate your visitors and members. In short, adult web sites need a dedicated web hosting service bureau that can support the most common multimedia file types and provide the storage space and bandwidth to make your clients surfing in high traffic volume happy. Lastly, check to see if they live up to their uptime claims. 

Many reputable adult sites do maintain server and network redundancies that enable them to back their 99% or more availability claims. Web host reputation can help you make your choice. They may be expensive than most other web host bureaus, but as in anything else, you get what you pay for.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

Using Adult Toys to Enhance Relationships

Adult Toys are a great way to experience new things in the bedroom. Most adult Novelties can provide direct stimulation and arousal, and many couples are turning to adult toys to help spice things up. Although some couples may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable using adult toys to help stimulate their love life, in reality experimenting with sex toys can actually create can openness between you and your partner. Using adult toys can help you experience new areas of arousal and pleasure together, and help you better understand how to please your partner. 

The main reason couples feel uncomfortable using sex toys together is because they have never used them before, its something unfamiliar. If you and your partner are ready to embark on a new, romantic, passionate adventure together these toys may be just what you need to get started. Not only can these toys help couples become more open sexually with one another, sex toys are appealing because they are relatively inexpensive. Buying a toy is a one time purchase that can provide multiple opportunities of passion for you and your partner in the bedroom. Adult toys also come in a variety of sizes and models and can be used by the inexperienced and experienced alike. If you are new to the world of adult toys, do your research on the differences between products. 

You may chose to include your partner as you shop around for just the right adult toy, or you may chose to surprise him/her with your purchase. If you and your partner are new to the world of adult toys, adult games, or enhancers, then start off slow. Make sure that whatever you try is something that you both feel comfortable trying. If one partner feels awkward or uncomfortable it will impact the overall experience of both people. Recognize that sex, like other qualities of your relationship, requires time and effort to keep things alive and going strong. Just as individuals change throughout time, you also have to adapt your sexuality and sensuality with the relationship. 

Being open to trying new things in the bedroom and being adaptable to change is just one way that your love life can grow and flourish. Adult novelties are just one way that couples can enhance their relationship, other options include lubes, adult games, lingerie, and adult videos. A common misconception is that these enhancers are used to replace having a partner. And, while that may be true in some circumstances, it is certainly not always so. 

Remember that in order for a couple to grow their sexual relationship they must be open with each other, and be willing to understand what pleases their partner. Enhancers may simply be a way to help you and your partner get your sexual adventure started. If you have some experience using adult Novelties then you already know the benefits that come from using them. If you are new to the world of adult toys then the adventure is ahead of you!

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Virtual Worlds to Bloom by 55% in Five Years

The commercial and free virtual world research firm eMarketer have made a bold prediction that within five years, virtual worlds may see an exponential growth of up to 55%. That's an encouraging sign for VWs in general because they are slowly gaining the acceptance of even adults nowadays. Because of its online nature, there has always been a running assumption that VWs are only for children and young adults. But VWs have proven to be a bustling community with its own economy, sensibilities and even culture. 

This parallelism with real life has given it a new buzz among adults, sensible moms and the baby boomer generation. The projections of eMarketer detail the consumption of virtual world consumption by young children to rise from eight million to fifteen million users. An estimated 54% of these young children will range from the ages of 3 to 11. The percentile for teens as of the year 2013 would be at 25%. Although virtual world marketers are gearing to include the demographic of the young urban professionals, family-oriented adults and stay-at-home moms, the majority of the buzz surrounding VWs still remains in the domain of the young children. As of today, there are about 150 commercial and free virtual worlds for kids. 

This trend will only continue five years from now. eMarketer points out that a good reason why VWs are a hit among children is its integration of the perks of video games and social marketing. After all, if children can get their fix on these two highlights of the Web 2.0 phenomenon in one place, they will definitely keep coming back. Moreover, children have a strong affinity for camaraderie in the online setting. Concerns about child safety are common with parents regarding the use of their children of these VWs. Exploitations and harassments do happen in these virtual world communities. But with the awareness brought by media literacy and previous reports of abuse, administrators of VWs are keen to maintain high standards of child protection in these online communities. 

With the multitude of commercial and free virtual worlds in the World Wide Web, having a strong sense of protection for users is good for brand identification. This is why virtual worlds are hard at work to maintain a good reputation for child safety. For VWs catering to the adult demographic, such safety concerns are not that important. 

The premium is for the user experience inside these online communities. There are two kinds of VWs and their focuses are clearly delineated: the massively multiplayer online role playing games (MMORPGs) and the social networking virtual worlds. As one can observe, adults are looking for an optimized experience in these virtual worlds - unlike virtual worlds for kids which try to give everything for children. However, advertising in VWs as of late has still not turned into a full-fledged industry because marketers are still feeling out these virtual worlds. According to Debra Aho Williamson, eMarketer senior analyst and author of the new report, Kids and Teens: Growing Up Virtual: "Unfortunately, as with social networks, advertising has not kept pace with usage. Not surprisingly, the hype and fizzling out of Second Life, combined with the tough economy, have made some marketers skittish for virtual worlds in general." With the strong market competition, it can be forecasted that VWs will keep on improving their services - whether for children or for adults. And with this competition in mind, the forecasted 55% increase of virtual world usage by the research firm eMarketer seems to be reasonable and following its timetable.